“Brick by brick, I’ll pave the path for you”, he said.
“And Ill give you the vision to where it should lead!”, she said
“Do know, the journey will be long and arduous”, he said
“But through my eyes, love and the kindness, along the path, you will see”, she said
~ An interlude between the Warrior and the Maiden
Within each one of us, the Maiden, and the Warrior converse. Through them, our behaviors are directed, and our paths are laid out. So what are those governing forces and how do they shape us to become?
With a full set of armor and a sword with a deafening blade, the Warrior governs our “action-oriented” side. It is our Masculine-half residing in each of us. It creates plans, assesses potentialities and risks, and with a full force, moves forward towards achieving its goals. It is the side of us that propels us to act, to advance, to eliminate threats, and to achieve our visions. It’s the side that builds, the side that measures, and the side that learns. The Warrior is our own inner show of strength and power.
However, relying solely on your Warrior side creates an inner need for control. The Warrior governs the logical aspect of our thinking. When the balance tilts more towards our Masculine aspect, we tilt towards using logic and reasoning in our day-to-day activities, dismissing intuition, creativity, and passion. We become concentrated on the physical world and feel as if life is a bundle of responsibilities that needs to be taken care of without attributing much attention to the beauty that lies around us nor the splendor of what the path might have instore for us. We suddenly become infused with doubt, and fear of the future. “I only believe what I can see” becomes our governing motto. Life becomes exhausting and troublesome. Eventually, chronic stress and exhaustion becomes our everyday companion.
Characteristics of people with a high and prolonged dependence on the Inner Warrior:
- Excessive logical thinking; no room for creativity.
- Feeling of a “heavy weight on their shoulders”
- Obstinacy and difficulty in altering paths
- Inability to cope with change
- Focused solely on accumulating money and “paying the bills”
- Prone towards negative thinking: Predicts failure before the finalization of the event.
With grace that charms the winds and beauty that blinds the eyes, our inner Maiden brightens our soul. She leads our creativity and intuition. She lights hope when we can see none and graces us with beauty when everything seems mundane. She is the Feminine-half of each of us. Through her, we discover the depths of who we are and dream of worlds that we wish to create. She is our dream weaver, our passion infuser, and our heart opener. With a strong inner Maiden influence within us, we relinquish many of our fears, experience the full spectrum of emotions, nourish our spirit with faith, and are able to feel sympathy and open our hearts. We become a beacon for others, more forgiving, and less judgmental.
Nevertheless, an excess of the Inner Maiden energy for a prolonged period of time does carry its own disadvantages. When we only rely on our Feminine side, we become dreamers without a plan. Our emotions pour out uncontrollably, failing to be guided by our intentions. We become what’s known as “living in our heads” without feeling a ground that can supports us.
Characteristics of people with a high and prolonged dependence on the Inner Maiden:
- Excessive daydreaming
- Difficulty in grasping reality
- Tendency to avoid difficult situations
- Recurrent emotional outbursts
- Lives in the “future” and “what ifs”
- Careless when it comes to day-to-day responsibilities.
The current predominant energies in our societies are masculine. We are living in societies that value physical wealth over spiritual. We measure abundance with how much money do we have and how many houses do we own. We work tirelessly in a 9-5 Job (that never ends at 5) and then go on a “vacation” for two weeks without truly turning our minds off of work. We compare our successes with others and feel continuously judged and criticized. We are simply running ourselves dry waiting whether we’ll see the fruits of our continued labor. To show sympathy or understanding is characterized as weakness and to show anger and stubbornness is a sign of strength. This forced most of us to act through our Warrior and tiresomely make use of it without providing it a minute of rest nor the aid from its companion, the Inner Maiden. We keep striving and struggling, trying to achieve the “common” future and to finally become “happy”, without realizing that to truly be happy we need to first discover our own true nature and rebalance our own energies. We are simply trying to pave the path with having no true vision in sight nor see the beauty along the side of the road.
Even though our general aim should always be towards balancing the two energies inside of us. Having a heightened Warrior or Maiden isn’t always disadvantageous. In a life-threatening situation, having a a dominant Warrior can save our lives. In addition, when performing a piece of art, an accentuated Maiden can translate the creativity that lies in our minds unto the paper in front of us. The goal isn’t to suppress a certain side from showing its wonders and beauty, the goal is to give each side room to grow and prosper, and to work together on achieving the wonderful life that we want to create for ourselves.
Stages in our lives and the Maiden/Warrior dominance:
As a cause of pressure from society and a need to conform, we have developed a tendency that many people possess to embody a certain energy throughout a certain phase of our lives. Let’s look at this example:
As a female, Sandra has always been taught how to behave in a certain manner. She needs to wear skirts, play with dolls, and like the color pink to convey her femininity. Henceforth, throughout her childhood and maybe part of her teenage years, her Maiden was in charge. Her Warrior was forced to relinquish his power as it is unaccepted for her to recognize his power. Later on, she started working in the corporate world. In order for her to succeed, she believed that she needed to be forceful, unemotional, and only noticing tangibles. She needed to resurrect her Warrior side however with forcing her Maiden side back into the closet. She believed the power that her Warrior can equip her with will push her towards ultimate satisfaction. She contributed the Maiden to being emotional, which she also contributed to weakness.
Years later, she realizes that somewhere in the middle, she had lost her identity. She became anxious, angry, and insecure. Physical ailments might have also transpired. She feels imbalanced… she feels lost.
I have heard this story, and others similar to it, from different clients all over the world. We tend to force ourselves into believing that we either have Masculine or a Feminine energy. Both can’t work together. We somehow started believing that each negates the other, while that couldn’t be farthest from the truth. They complete eachother! Their combined forces form a coherent body and mind and show us the true beauty and pleasure of life.
Characteristics of each side:
When working together, the Maiden and the Warrior produce a coherent free-functioning energy system that affects our internal and external environments. However, even though, together, they form a complete picture, each by itself plays its part in sculpting our lives. Let’s dig deeper into each:
She rules the left side of our body which is managed by the right side of our brain. She is ruled by the moon energy. She governs our creative, intuitive, and emotional side:
- She allows us to see a situation from a collective point of view.
- She integrates rather than differentiates.
- She opens our hearts, focuses on being, and stimulates our intuition.
- Through her, we feel part of the All.
- Through her, we dive inwards.
- We learn how to collaborate.
- She rules the subconsciousness.
- She focuses on the connection between two objects.
- Through her we learn patience.
- Through her we learn to be comfortable within the unknown.
- She is process oriented.
- Yin Energy
He rules the right side of our body which is managed by the left side of our brain. He is ruled by the Sun energy. He governs our thinking, planning, and systematic side:
- He allows us to see the uniqueness in individuality.
- He sees the logical patterns presented in different situations.
- He rules our analytical side.
- He opens our mind and focuses on action and doing.
- Through him we feel our induvial power.
- He rules the conscious mind.
- He focuses on the cause and effect between two objects.
- Through him, we learn urgency and action.
- Through him we learn how to structure our way of thinking.
- He is result oriented.
- Yang Energy
Both are magical individually however their combined energy sets an unstoppable force. Call on them to endow your soul with both of their strengths. Cherish your Maiden and be proud of your Warrior. Allow them to combine their forces and pave the path for you to have a beautiful wonderful life!